How to Have a Conversation with a Girl?

Struggling to have a conversation with a girl? Read this guide!

For a lot of guys, having a conversation with a girl ranks among the most arduous tasks on the planet! Some develop goose bumps, sweaty palms, chattering teeth while others plainly stammer their way out of favour in winning the girl over. With these simple steps, I want to help you overcome that inertia and improve your conversation skills in any situation with any girl.


Exude Confidence:

The most important thing you should have as a guy is confidence in yourself and your abilities, regardless of your looks. This stems out of a healthy self-esteem. It should be known that the trepidation most guys feel is considerable as a result of low self–esteem, many already place the girl on a pedestal above them and conclude that they won’t be worth listening to. To be able to muster the courage to talk to a girl you must be confident enough to bear rejection! Now take note that rejection might have nothing to do with you – yes, you could be unfortunate to start a friendly conversation with a girl who is distant. How do you exude confidence?

Have a positive attitude about yourself- Defeat that negative voice in your head which makes you feel you haven’t got what it takes – a lot of positive confessions daily would do the trick, not just confessing though you’ve got to believe it.
Dress well- A clean and sharp look tells a lot about you than you can imagine. You don’t have to wear the most expensive brands of clothes but the ones that suit you. When you know you look good, you ultimately have a positive feeling about yourself.
Courage- Summon the courage to walk up to the girl and initiate the conversation


Introduce yourself with a smile:
Introduce yourself especially if you have not had a prior conversation with the girl or you have not made acquaintances yet. Your smile goes a long way in breaking the ice, and it conveys the message to the lady you want to have a conversation with that you are friendly. Nobody wants to be in a conversation with a grumpy person. Introduce yourself and politely request that you’d like to know her. I emphasized the word ‘politely’ because many a times guys tend to overlook the importance of courtesy during conversations. Girls are attracted to gentlemen, and you should know that as a fact.

Make eye contact:
You should never allow trepidation get the better part of you when talking to a girl. Avoiding making eye contact with the girl sends the message that you are extremely shy, or you are deliberately avoiding her gaze for some reasons. Giving the girl room to doubt your genuine interest is a big turn off. Be bold enough to return her gaze, not in a cold and menacing stare that can in turn make her shy, but in a warm and gentle way. Let her know you are interested in making her acquaintance from your eyes.

Moderately Compliment:
Girls appreciate compliments especially from the opposite sex, but is it a license to give it with impropriety? I guess not. In the conversation, genuinely compliment her looks but not in excess as it might seem as overt flattery; sending the wrong message across. Compliments such as “That’s a nice dress”, “You have a very nice smile” seem more appropriate than “I like your curves” especially for an initial conversation.

5.Ask open-ended questions about her interests:
Avoid close-ended questions while talking to a girl. You do not want to receive monosyllabic answers such as “yes”, “no” and “fine” all through the conversation. Open-ended questions give the girl room to give lengthy explanations, and you can pick up areas of interest from them for subsequent questions. Questions such as “Why do you like this movie?” would give her room to air her interests and keep the conversation flowing rather than asking “You like this movie, right?”

Listen with enraptured attention:
Being a good listener is a plus, you can pick up on important information about her interests and steer the conversation towards those directions.

Having a conversation with a girl isn’t as difficult as you’ve led yourself on to imagine. With the few points I’ve listed I know you’re on your way to having a great conversation with that girl.